Haven’t Felt Up to Posting Much

I know I haven’t been updating here, or anywhere really, very much the past couple of weeks or so… but my heart just isn’t in it. It’s breaking for several of my friends right now. I’m sure they could use the prayers, and I could use some myself… to have the right words to say to them… because right now I’m at a loss for words with some of their situations. I think to help myself navigate through the pain I’m feeling for them, it’d help to share the issues (not their names obviously) but maybe some of you have helped others through tough situations like these before and can give me some advice. For now, all I can do is pray diligently for them.

• a husband who was caught sending inappropriate texts to a female co-worker by his wife. thankfully they seem to be working things out.
• a husband who has unrealistic expectations of his (2nd) wife when it comes to bodily appearance and upkeep of the house when she is working full time to provide the family with insurance (so he can run his own dream business), takes care of their young daughter, and takes care of HIS daughter from the previous marriage, when it’s his time for visitation. come to find, he may have been cheating on her with as many as 3 other women. they separated this weekend.
• a husband who is depressed about having failed out of the nursing program he was in, and my friend who is trying to be supportive of him, but depressed that it means she may be stuck in this full time job she hates and never get the opportunity to stay at home with their young son or have more children. we’re hoping he’ll be allowed to re-take the tests in the fall and it won’t put him too far behind schedule to still graduate.
• a husband who’s just found out that the restaurant he was recently hired to manage has gone bankrupt and he is now out of a job.
• a husband who’s had several bacterial and viral infections over the last few months that has had him in the hospital several time, missing a lot of time from work. thankfully his wife hasn’t caught anything he’s had yet.
• a long term fiance (and father of 2 young kids together) who thinks the world revolves around him, isn’t very helpful with the kids, has video game addictions, and has verbally aggressive tendencies when he feels like he was “made a fool of” whether real or imagined. very bipolar sounding from the stories I’ve heard, but my stay-at-home-mom friend stays because she has no money, no where to go, no degree and no real job opportunities to be able to support 2 kids on her own. at least he’s not physically abusive.
• a couple who just lost their baby at around 20 weeks, when they were going for the ultrasound to find out the baby’s gender, they found no heart beat.
• a couple who were trying to adopt a baby from a young, teenage, girl in their family recently found out (after several months of drama over whether the girl would give the baby up or not, who the father might be, and the girl’s refusal to get prenatal care) that the baby never even existed. at least there’s not a baby being denied prenatal care.
• a husband who’s had to move to an apartment 1.5 hours away from his wife and 2 kids to be able to focus on finishing his medical rotations, and swimming in debt at the same time.

There are probably more that I can’t think of right off hand, but needless to say, I have a lot of friends who are suffering right now… and all I can do is pray and send out lots of hugs.

My Time Has Come

I guess I couldn’t expect to NEVER have a claim on my car insurance.  I am probably pretty lucky that my first claim didn’t come until I was 26, but still… how do you explain away hitting not one, but TWO parked cars?!  

The best explaination I have, of what happened, is that I was turning left around the corner on our street and some checks that I had intended to go deposit slid from my console and across the passenger seat. I reached to grab them (still with my foot on the break from going around the corner) and I guess, in trying to keep the wheel straight while I leaned to the right, I over corrected because I continued to go left. I looked up and found myself sliding down the driver side of my neighbor’s red car and then coming to a stop in the back of their black car (which was parked just a little further away from the curb.) *sigh* This is no way to start out our Thanksgiving weekend. I guess all I can say is I’m thankful that I was still on my breaks and that it wasn’t a high speed impact, just a small bump. It definitely did some damage though.

the damage I did to the driver side of the red car

my angle of impact, down the red, into the black

the black car I came to a stop on

note my headlight pieces on the ground

my busted headlight

the black and red paint on my wheel well

The claims adjustor should be contacting me within 24-48 hours. We at least have full coverage on the van (we only carry liability on Jason’s truck) so this should be taken care of… we’ll still have to pay our deductible though.

In Loving Memory…

During the birthday party we were having for Jason tonight, we got the call from his mother that Naña, Jason’s only grandmother, had passed away this afternoon. She had fallen just over a week ago and had some complications with the surgery, but was taken out of ICU recently because she was doing better, and had apparently gone on to rehabilitation today. Seems as though she wasn’t quite ready for that yet though. I’m not sure of all the details yet, but we will be traveling to Tyler tomorrow to be with his mom and the rest of the family. Please keep us in your prayers. This is the first time Jason or I have ever lost a grandparent.

The last picture I think we have of Jonah with Naña, at Christmas.

 A grave side service will be held @ 10 am on Wednesday. The family requests that in lieu of flowers, memorials be made to either the Cancer Foundation or Humane Society.