I know I haven’t been updating here, or anywhere really, very much the past couple of weeks or so… but my heart just isn’t in it. It’s breaking for several of my friends right now. I’m sure they could use the prayers, and I could use some myself… to have the right words to say to them… because right now I’m at a loss for words with some of their situations. I think to help myself navigate through the pain I’m feeling for them, it’d help to share the issues (not their names obviously) but maybe some of you have helped others through tough situations like these before and can give me some advice. For now, all I can do is pray diligently for them.
- a husband who was caught sending inappropriate texts to a female co-worker by his wife. thankfully they seem to be working things out.
- a husband who has unrealistic expectations of his (2nd) wife when it comes to bodily appearance and upkeep of the house when she is working full time to provide the family with insurance (so he can run his own dream business), takes care of their young daughter, and takes care of HIS daughter from the previous marriage, when it’s his time for visitation. come to find, he may have been cheating on her with as many as 3 other women. they separated this weekend.
- a husband who is depressed about having failed out of the nursing program he was in, and my friend who is trying to be supportive of him, but depressed that it means she may be stuck in this full time job she hates and never get the opportunity to stay at home with their young son or have more children. we’re hoping he’ll be allowed to re-take the tests in the fall and it won’t put him too far behind schedule to still graduate.
- a husband who’s just found out that the restaurant he was recently hired to manage has gone bankrupt and he is now out of a job.
- a husband who’s had several bacterial and viral infections over the last few months that has had him in the hospital several time, missing a lot of time from work. thankfully his wife hasn’t caught anything he’s had yet.
- a long term fiance (and father of 2 young kids together) who thinks the world revolves around him, isn’t very helpful with the kids, has video game addictions, and has verbally aggressive tendencies when he feels like he was “made a fool of” whether real or imagined. very bipolar sounding from the stories I’ve heard, but my stay-at-home-mom friend stays because she has no money, no where to go, no degree and no real job opportunities to be able to support 2 kids on her own. at least he’s not physically abusive.
- a couple who just lost their baby at around 20 weeks, when they were going for the ultrasound to find out the baby’s gender, they found no heart beat.
- a couple who were trying to adopt a baby from a young, teenage, girl in their family recently found out (after several months of drama over whether the girl would give the baby up or not, who the father might be, and the girl’s refusal to get prenatal care) that the baby never even existed. at least there’s not a baby being denied prenatal care.
- a husband who’s had to move to an apartment 1.5 hours away from his wife and 2 kids to be able to focus on finishing his medical rotations, and swimming in debt at the same time.
There are probably more that I can’t think of right off hand, but needless to say, I have a lot of friends who are suffering right now… and all I can do is pray and send out lots of hugs.
